If you are in a long-term relationship, or a relationship that is quite new but getting real serious, then there’s a good chance you have some real challenging stuff to work out with your partner. Sometimes the differences in a relationship are manageable, and can be worked on to improve each other. But sometimes a relationship is in trouble, and you need to take the steps to either. It’s a tricky spot to be in, and takes a lot of emotional strength, but I know you can do it because I’ve done it loads of times, and it feels really good to call things what they are. Just so you know: there are lots of singles in online dating looking for casual sex, so if relationship advice is not working, then try to make casual sex happen online.
In the interest of helping you get some clarity in your relationship, I want to offer some tips to help turn your relationship around, or end it before it keeps going down the wrong track. Personally, the best thing for me was helping myself to stop feeling stuck – to show myself that there is more out there, that I don’t always need to try and change for someone else if I don’t think it’s good for me. I’ve found a lot of success with online dating. I did have to cheat on my partner one time in order to show them I was unhappy. Guess what: it worked! So take my word for it that it can help
My tips are broken down into warning signs and solutions for each warning sign. Let’s begin.
Not Having Any Sex
If you are not having any sex, then you are in trouble. This means that after a long day at work, you come home and want to relax and feel comfortable, but you are unable to share all your deepest thoughts with the other person. This may have a number of causes, almost always including a distrust or disinterest in what the other person has to say. The real sign of a healthy relationship is Communication and healthy sex life, so once it breaks down you gotta do something! I had this going on with a lady for a few months. We were just going through the motions everyday, nothing spontaneous was being planned by either of us. It sucked. We were not having any sex, so I decided to call it off.
Try To Have More Sex
Take your partner to a place you have never been before – to a gallery, or for a hike out of the city. Changing up your routines will help open up lines of communication, especially if those lines are not too far gone yet. It will definitely make you have more sex. Your partner will be thankful, and be inspired to do the same thing for you. Not only that, but you down time together will make it easier to open up to each other. Serious relationships should be between two best friends, or close to best friends, so there really should not be anything you can’t share.
Make Casual Sex Happen
Do you think it’s possible to start having casual sex in a relationship? Like not on a routine, just here and there? If not, then you need to get with the program. Not having sex is a serious problem. It’s a fact of relationships that once the romance fades the prospects of long-term success are much much lower. Spontaneous nights of passion are great and all, but do not solve the deeper issue. Chances are you both are aware of this, and there’s very little to be done. My suggestion is to break off the relationship if you are not sexually satisfied over a 6 month period. People get into patterns and rhythms, and sex is one of those unspoken activities that should always be at the centre of your relationship. So start looking for casual sex elsewhere, because no relationship advice will save you know. Not all my relationships I’ve had have been based around sex, but most of them have, and the best ones were the ones where we had lot’s of sex. Once the passion dies however, it’s time to move on. So say the unspoken stuff, and put your feelings out into the world for your partner to deal with. It’s not going to hurt them as much if you say it, whereas if you just leave then it’s way more confusing.
I’ve had so much success with online dating in helping me end stale or dysfunctional relationships. There are so many single ladies out there looking for casual sex, so it’s really no surprise. Depending on the state of your relationship, you can tell your partner that you are starting to date online, and that it’s going to help you move on. There’s no pain in that, as long as you’re not hurting them too much and being open. Change is always going to be uncomfortable, but online dating will make it easier, especially if you are sexually unsatisfied in your current relationship. The best way to start is just to look in your area for casual hookups. I’ve found that staying mysterious is really alluring for women, and keeping it loose and easy will be better for both of you anyways. It’s not really smoke and mirrors, just a little bit of ambiguity.